Grow old with me

5 years ago I said "I do". I was one of those late bloomers who wanted to test the waters of the dating pool before jumping in to catch my fish. My mother got to the point that unless they made it to the 6 week mark she didn't want to know their name. It was really simple in my books, I wanted a guy like my dad. I had to date a lot of Mr. Wrongs to find one Mr. Right.

The first time B met my parents was the morning after we had celebrated his birthday. I had made lobster linguine and we went out on the town with his friends. He woke up the next morning and asked "What time will your parents be here" ...buzz..."ahh about NOW". So not only was he hung over but he went through the social graces of meeting my parents and watching my mother choose his leftover dinner for lunch<which I think he wanted to take home...and has never let me forget> .

I woke up one day 6 years later and decided that I was too old to call B my boyfriend anymore and it was time we got married. 6 months later B asked me to marry him<he is not one to cave under pressure>. I don't have a romantic proposal story but it is "us"

Christmas Eve lying in bed watching Spiderman. When the uncle gets shot, B turns to me and says
B: what are you doing in June?
Me: June? How do I know...that is 6 months away
B: Want to get married then
Me; No I don't want to get married in June, it's rainy..wait are you asking me to marry you?
B: yes
Me: I would rather September <I like to work out details before committing>
B: September would be fine too
Me: Then yes
B: Produces a homemade ring///which I still have/// but he later replaced it with the real version
Me: Ok then

Then we go back to watching the movie.....

So after 12 years together and 5 years of marriage our life ..for the most part ..has been easy. We have been through a lot in those past 12 years
- Death of friends and family
- Inability to have children
- Cancer with my mom, dad, cat and me
- Divorces and remarriages of family and friends
- Remodeling ..which can me more taxing on a marriage than any of the above
- Loss of a job
- Going back to school
-etc.

But through it all we have had lots of laughter, lots of tears and best of all.. lots of love. I never thought that when I took the vow of for better or worse that we would truly be tested to the limits on both ends.

Each time when I say good night I realize how lucky I am to have B in my life and as each day goes by it really does get better and better. I am glad I waited to marry my best friend and as we grow old and more aches and pains come along I am glad he is there to rub my feet and not want to throw me off a cliff...now that's love!